I know to a lot of people this may not sound like much. And if we would've been talking about this a couple years ago I would've thought what I'm saying is cliche and kind of stupid. But it's what I want, and it's what I dream of. It's what will bring me true happiness. The most important thing to me is finding a husband that will be the kind of dad to my children that I always wished I had. And I know many people would say that an eighteen year old girl in her first year at a big college shouldn't be thinking about who she's gonna be marrying. But I couldn't disagree more. I'm not about wasting my time, and finding a good husband is way too important to me to just put myself out there for anyone that shows an interest in me. If I can't picture myself being with someone in the far future, I won't stay with them. It's just common sense to me. I want to raise my kids in a loving, no judgment home. The love I received from my dad was always conditional and came with strings attached. And while my mom is an awesome person, she's always been too strict to ever talk to about real problems. I want my kids to know that they can talk to me about anything, and I'll never judge them. These are things that are just second nature to a lot of parents, and that's the way it should be. But coming from a home where this was never established has given me perspective to see just how crucial it is to having the family I dream of.
Having this family is just the small scale of what I want in my life. Not only do I want this family for myself, but I dream of bringing it to others who don't receive it. I've always wanted to adopt one or two kids. Ever since I was really little I knew I wanted to do this someday. There are so many kids out there who have things a million times worse than I ever did. And if I can play a part in showing just one of these kids what being part of a true family feels like, then I'd say I've been pretty successful in life. I'm a psychology major, and I dream of being a school psychologist in an inner-city school. I know I won't be able to solve every kid's problems and make everything okay for them, but it's the little things that count. And yeah, that's pretty much as cliche as it gets, but it really is true. A lot of these kids have no one rooting for them. Sometimes all you need is someone on your team. Someone to listen to the bad stuff and celebrate the good stuff. This is what family is. Family doesn't have to be contained in your own home. I think family can be an action. It's reaching out to those who may not ever know how it feels to be part of one. This is my dream. It's what I think about every day. I've learned that family is valuable and no one should ever have to go through life not knowing what it truly means.
4 comments:
Asha I really enjoyed hearing how you want to help other children who are going through hard times. This really hit close to home because my family went through a similar situation, and it is very hard, but obviously you have come out a better person for it. It's so funny that you talked about finding a husband, and wanting to build a family because people always think I'm crazy for thinking about that already! But, it's true I don't date someone if I don't see there being more. I want to be with someone smart, driven, and wants the same things I do. This isn't a "small" goal because the impacts you could potentially make in other's lives is big. I really liked this, and I'm sure you will definitely get all this and more!:)
Asha, thank you so much for sharing your story! You are such a strong person for going through an experience like this and wanting to better yourself and others from it. I totally agree that as soon as you enter college, it is important to start considering the type of person you would want to marry and spend the rest of your life with. Although I also think college is about meeting new people and gaining experience in relationships, I also do not think people should enter relationships just to be in one. I think they need to give it more thought as to could they really see something becoming of that relationship. I am sure you will find the perfect guy for you and have an amazing and beautiful family, just like you have always wanted!
Asha, it is incredible that you feel comfortable sharing your story with us. That shows how this class has effected us all. It is even more incredible that you have become a better person because of everything you have been through. I really admire how you saw a problem and are dedicated to fix it. Adopting children will make a significant impact on their lives for the better. As you said, family is very important and by giving them a supportive, loving and open family you will give them everything. Your goal to become a school psychologist is the perfect way to make your cause reach many lives. Your cause is very realistic and you already have a plan to make it a reality, you will change lives!
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